You've had a much worse time than I have.
My daughter exhausts me, because she is so intense, but we've never had cops involved.
Sounds as if your ex is aggrivating the situation.
Hope your son makes it through okay
Sigh. My ex has to "win" any any cost. The kids have slipped up and told me on occasion that daddy says they don't have to help pack, do chores, etc. If a kid has problems, it makes the situation 10x worse. My youngest one is emotional from all the manipulation, but otherwise healthy...thank God.
Whether he makes it, is up to him now. When he was in middle school, he and a friend were cited by the cops for lighting off fireworks...on school property, during summer school. DOH! In HS, he got in a fight in class, and several members of the wrestling team had to pull them apart. Cited once again. This meant going before a judge, court fees, and money for community service. Almost a grand for both citations, and I didn't bother asking daddy to split the cost. I didn't even tell him about the second court appearance, after Dad didn't show up for the first one.
I'll always pray for him.