And stupid people annoy me. Fact is...people don't want to be around people who don't take care of themselves. If one treats himself badly...how will he treat others? Its common sense and a reality of life.
Posted on 08/24/2005 7:20:13 AM PDT by Millee
As doctors warn more patients that they should lose weight, the advice has backfired on one doctor with a woman filing a complaint with the state saying he was hurtful, not helpful.
Dr. Terry Bennett says he tells obese patients their weight is bad for their health and their love lives, but the lecture drove one patient to complain to the state.
"I told a fat woman she was obese," Bennett says. "I tried to get her attention. I told her, 'You need to get on a program, join a group of like-minded people and peel off the weight that is going to kill you.' "
He says he wrote a letter of apology to the woman when he found out she was offended.
Her complaint, filed about a year ago, was initially investigated by a board subcommittee, which recommended that Bennett be sent a confidential letter of concern. The board rejected the suggestion in December and asked the attorney general's office to investigate.
Bennett rejected that office's proposal that he attend a medical education course and acknowledge that he made a mistake.
Bruce Friedman, chairman of the board of medicine, said he could not discuss specific complaints. Assistant Attorney General Catherine Bernhard, who conducted the investigation, also would not comment, citing state law that complaints are confidential until the board takes disciplinary action.
The board's Web site says disciplinary sanctions may range from a reprimand to the revocation of all rights to practice in the state.
"Physicians have to be professional with patients and remember everyone is an individual. You should not be inflammatory or degrading to anyone," said board member Kevin Costin.
Other overweight patients have come to Bennett's defense.
"What really makes me angry is he told the truth," Mindy Haney told WMUR-TV on Tuesday. "How can you punish somebody for that?"
Haney said Bennett has helped her lose more than 150 pounds, but acknowledged that the initially didn't want to listen.
"I have been in this lady's shoes. I've been angry and left his practice. I mean, in-my-car-taking-off angry," Haney said. "But once you think about it, you're angry at yourself, not Doctor Bennett. He's the messenger. He's telling you what you already know."
And stupid people annoy me. Fact is...people don't want to be around people who don't take care of themselves. If one treats himself badly...how will he treat others? Its common sense and a reality of life.
She not overweight, she's just underheight. She might be svelt (that means well proportioned) If she was 7 feet tall (maybe 8 feet tall).
As the explorer said to the Amazon woman: "Take me to your ladder, I'll see your leader, later."
I agree with what you say but this woman was talking to her doctor in the privacy of his office. I don't know about you but I want my doctor to be frank with me.
I agree with what you say but this woman was talking to her doctor in the privacy of his office. I don't know about you but I want my doctor to be frank with me.
Here's hoping her fat A** has a heart attack from eating so much.
Being obese is unhealthy. She should listen to her doctor. Smoking is unhealthy, so is excessive drinking. If you reject that advice and sue your doctor, you are angry at yourself. Put the blame there.
The truth hurts.
Is this the poor widdle victim????
I'm sorry -- I KNOW exercise is the way to go (that's the only way I can lose weight - two miles with the dog every day, four miles with the dog every other day). I figured though that this lady had better start the process before she starts exercising, or she might blow out a knee.
Of course, she could always swim . . . when we're at the beach I swim laps with my dog (she's faster. But she's got four legs and webbed feet . . .)
In his working years he held very strenous jobs -- delivered coal and was a volunteer fireman. When he retired, he quit exercising but he didn't quit eating. He was a big man anyhow, and by the time I knew him he was wheelchair-bound due to obesity.
Terrible shame, 'cause he was a really neat guy.
When I was in college my BMI was all out of whack - I only weighed 25-30 pounds less than I do now, but I was playing two sports, in the swim club, and rode a bicycle everywhere (on a very hilly campus) because I didn't have a car. I was incredibly skinny and solid as a brick (oh, dear dead days beyond recall!)
That's true. It's called aging. Most fat people lose nearly all their excess weight by the time they reach old age.
She's so fat, she jumped up in the air --
and got stuck.
Even assuming he makes the VERY modest goal of 12 pounds in 3 weeks, as soon as he leaves, he'll go back to his old bad habits and put all the weight back on. He doesn't seem like the sort that has the will power to stick with a program like Pritikin for the rest of his life . . . it takes a quasi-religious experience to make that sort of extreme lifestyle change, and "religious", quasi- or otherwise, is not a word that leaps to mind when I think of him.
Maybe she can sue this group too while she's at it:
Americans getting fatter: report
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1469308/posts
Is that HER?!?!?!??
They need a new category beyond "obese" . . . Own Zip Code?
(I would feel sorry for her, but anybody who would wear a T shirt like that is fair game.)
I have a cousin, approaching 50, who has been obese her entire adult life. She's never been married, lives with her mom, (my aunt), is a college graduate, and is gainfully employed at a government desk job. However, I saw her sitting with tears in her eyes at my daughter's wedding ten years ago, while her slim cousins were out on the dance floor having a good time. I asked why she was upset, and she said something like, "Look at me and look at them." I knew it was in reference to her weight.
BUT, this is the same person who drinks Cokes all day long! I've suggested that she drink a diet drink. She said she doesn't like the taste, and that she can't do without her Cokes. The sad part is that my aunt, when getting up to go to the kitchen, will ask her if she wants another Coke! Don't get me wrong...I love both of them. They are wonderful people, but if I would offer my overweight daughter a Coke, I feel it would be like offering her the death sentence! When she goes to visit someone, she brings her Cokes with her!
While talking with her on the phone some time ago, she said that during a doctor's visit, he told her she was "healthy," but she should stop drinking Coke. I think he should have told her the truth. Now she's having a lot of trouble with her knees. By the way, she's about as big as the woman in the pic in post #66! Sorry, that's not "healthy"!
Oh....My....God....
Well, she's trying to exercise. That's brave of her.
I think I need a dog....
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