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To: Finny
Or it shows that our family law courts have made it tenable for mothers to divorce the fathers of their children, retain physical custody of said children, and be "independent" on the court-ordered child support paid by the father, who ends up renting a room in a house with roommates, or living in a one-room apartment.

Hard to understand how a person would put up with such injustice. I'd quit working or leave the country before I'd let the government do that to me.

45 posted on 08/17/2005 3:43:53 PM PDT by beavus (Hussein's war. Bush's response.)
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To: beavus
I'd quit working or leave the country before I'd let the government do that to me.

Leave the country, and you're a fugitive from the law. Quit working, and you get thrown in jail for being a deadbeat dad.

My brother's X filed for divorce, took his kids, and the judge required so much child support from him that he was relegated to renting a room in a house with two other guys. My husband got laid off from his job that paid very well, but he was still legally obligated to pay his X the same amount of child support predicated on his former job's salary. In order to change that, we had to hire a lawyer, at the expense of many thousands of dollars, to get child support recalculated.

As you can see, the unfairness of child support laws with regard to fathers is a real sore point with me. But child support is only money. Worst is the fact that ex-dads are completely at the mercy of the "custodial parent" -- i.e., their Xs -- with regard to any kind of parental authority they have over their kids, regardless of anything written in the divorce agreement. Visitation, for example, is easly "frustrated" by the X, and dad may go for months without seeing the kids because she makes it impossible. In order to have it remedied, he has to hire a lawyer (thousands of dollars) and bring it to court to force the mom to cooperate with visitation -- make the kids available, and so forth. There is nothing, nada, zilch, required of the custodial parent to prove that the child support money actually goes to the kids.

These moms can divorce dad for any reason whatsoever. He can be faithful, never have abused drugs, never have been physically or mentally abusive, yet if the mom gets bored, or feels "unfulfilled," she can divorce him, get child support, get the kids, and go on with her life and afford to remarry and have more kids. If dad wants to remarry, how can he afford to support a second family?

American males get screwed every which-way -- dads and the sons who lose them -- and have been for the past 35 years. And people wonder at a male youth music culture that has such contempt for females in its lyrics. I say it was a long time coming -- treat men like crap for three and a half decades, and there's going to be a backlash.

69 posted on 08/17/2005 4:21:18 PM PDT by Finny (God continue to Bless President G.W. Bush with wisdom, popularity, safety and success.)
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