Apparently --- judging by your remark:
I guess living for oneself is now forbidden.
Firstly, you do not differentiate between merit of doing something and one's right to do that.
And, secondly, egotism --- in contrast to individualism, self-interest and pursuit of happiness --- has never been an American virtue.
That you, a self-provclaimed conservative, do not even differentiate the two is indeed a manifestation of decline in conservative values.
What a difference a "t" makes.