I thought about it but a confrontation didn't feel right at the time and still doesn't. Plus it was our former choir director's 80th birthday with her whole family sitting there, 3 or 4 generations so I guess you can say I'm chicken or over-accomodating, etc.
You showed integrity and dignity.... don't second guess yourself this way.
generations so I guess you can say I'm chicken or over-accomodating, etc.
No, I would say you showed good taste and proper manners. Pity your "Pastor" could not find it in his heart to do the same.
It's a lot easier for a bunch of people here to tell you you should have put on a scene and done a confrontation thing, than it is to actually do it.
And once you do something like that you can't take it back.
I am also leery of those who immediately urge you to Quit That Church. Take your money and run.
I've been in the same church for over 30 years. Some priests I've liked, some I've loved and some have gotten on my nerves and been too political. Still I stayed, and I'm glad.
You'll never find perfection in a church. But if it reaches the point where you are more antagonized than inspired at your church, you might want to look around.
But not because we say so!