[Lonesome in Massachussets]

Early on in my marriage I got caught out in a "Well, what are your alternatives?" kind of answer. I quickly realized my wife didn't want to hear about alternatives, she just wanted me to agree that so and so was heinous, pansies look better than daffodils, or whatever. Sometimes, I'm still not so sure. The other thing is, when she asks me to select alternatives, generally there is only one right answer, and if I can't divine it, man, am I in trouble. Sometimes the answer is obvious, "Does this dress make me look fat?" Sometimes all answers are fraught with danger, "Do like my hair shorter?" (Only good answer: "I like you hair just like it was the day I met you." I have only the vaguest idea how long my wife's hair was the day I met her. I wasn't looking at her hair.

[Para-Ord.45]

"The other thing is, when she asks me to select alternatives, generally there is only one right answer, and if I can't divine it, man, am I in trouble."

BINGO.

I`d have to refer you to a previous poster`s answer.Answer her question with a question," How do you feel about it " Use the word ' Feel ' because most women do just that,have feelings and emotions whereas we are just as dumb as a stump.

I pity us poor horn-dogs.

[Buckhead]

I have for years articulated the theory that women's voices are pitched so that men can easily tune them out, and that the purpose of being able to tune them out is to keep the nattering from driving you mad.

Now I got proof!