Actually I am in a minority of Freeper men in that I think that dividing marital property upon divorce is fine. A lot of men (Freeper and otherwise) look at marital property as 'ours' when times are good and 'mine' when times go bad.
That's silly, as I have said many times on FR. Once you get married, it all becomes 'ours.' If after 8 years my honey decides she would rather take naps with the UPS guy than me, well what can I say - I'd be mad, upset, angry, etc, but I'd still be standing.
In that case, or any case, each party gets 1/2 of the marital property, which is to say they get 100% of the portion they already owned, anyway. It's fair, if unseemly at times.
Men who are bitter about this have no sympathy from me. Seems to me like a small price to pay to get ride of someone (legally) who is distracting you and holding you back.
Adultery is a crime and should not be rewarded, IMHO. You are taking the "no fault" divorce track, when there is fault. That's a bad thing in my opinion.
If your wife throws away her oath of marriage (which is where the 50% is established), then I don't understand why she would be entitled to it after taking a sledgehammer to the oath she made.
If she wants to sleep with the UPS man instead of you, she would still be out of your life, albiet without half of the marital assets, and should be prosecuted for adultery. Again ... out of your life and not holding you back.
That's like saying if I give every mugger I see $100, they are out of my life and the won't hold me back. While true, I would hardly advocate it.
Paying people to commit adultery seems more than a little nutty to many people, and will only lead to more people using this method to obtain their desired result, further bastardizing the instituion of marriage (which I suppose is the goal).