[digitalman]

This must be a male thread. ummm, errrr guys don't mean to give you a curve ball, but the name of the author is a 'male' one.

The break down is marriage is due to more than just women not changing. Women do suffer economically after the marriage ends. Many women are single moms, and usually with jobs which pay less than the males.

To blame everything on the the changing of the male roll and not being 'needed' to bring home the bacon, is taking the easy way out. A friend I had lunch, told of her 'religious' hubby coming home from work, stating divorce was nothing all the 'men' do it, (not sure where this guys religion, probably in his butt).

The truth is marriages are braking down because they are not valued in society. People believe what they read, all they hear from the friends, and yes, even sometimes 'bad' advise from 'not well intended' family members.

There was an article which I came across, it stated something about people were never inteneded to live as long as they do, more divorces will happpen in older years, because of a longer life span. Well, now people will read that and believe this also. Another excuse.

Truth is it is because as an American society we do not value marriage (yep, even many religious dudes give lip service on this, and I do mean 'lip service'). America is about money, self centerness. ( this gives control freaks added fuel to a marriage brake down) It is nothing for people to have two, three and even four spouses in America (at seperate times, I laugh when these people say look at those men in the middle east, I usually think to myself, heck bud, at least they are still with him, and he's supporting them, you have had the same number yourself).(((that statement will make a lot of people angry, it is stated to make ya angry, and to make you think!!!!))))) And no I am not for polygamy, and not for serial polygamy, oh, sorry, think that is call serial monogamy.

It is not just about women changing, it is about the American society will all the lip service of 'families' the reality is it is not, the values among it's people is money and self interest focused. can't let the fellow males wimp out blaiming it on the 'little woman', it is more complex a problem than that.

[Publius6961]

This must be a male thread. ummm, errrr guys don't mean to give you a curve ball, but the name of the author is a 'male' one.

You haven't been paying attention, have you.

[GSlob]

Actually, it is due to the very simple fact that in olden days an extended family was the only social safety net available - and thus had to be preserved. Only the very rich could afford being without one. Therefore, as a thought experiment, abolish the welfare system and Social Security, Medicare/Medicaid, permit the hospitals and doctors to throw away uninsured would-be patients - and you will see stable families if not overnight, then within a very short time.

[Bon mots]

Women do suffer economically after the marriage ends. Many women are single moms, and usually with jobs which pay less than the males.

Well then they shouldn't whine when they screw up the marriage.

[Melas]

Excellent post. I think you hit the nail on the head. Although I'm divorced myself, I can't argue with a word of it. Luckily for me though, soon after leaving my disasterous first marriage, I met a wonderful woman, and we're working on 15 years of marriage now.

[CajunConservative]

Excellent post and insight. Too many people think only of themselves and the almighty dollar as the number one priority in life. They are so wrong. Hopefully they will see the truth before they are old and all alone.