People are a lot less willing to sacrifice their independent lifestyle
GGGRRRRRRRRR. Well no wonder no one wants to get married with this attitude. "SACRIFICE"
I had a conversation with a friend the other day about having children. He viewed having children as "giving up you freedom". This attitude astounds me. No doubt, getting married, and havinhg children change a persons lifestyle. But to view those changes as "sacrifice" and "giving up freedoms" is, IMO, a truly selfish, horrible attitude. And to go around saying things like that were young people hear it is what is turning them off to having a family. Why not speak of the wonderful gains of having a family rather then talking about so called sacrifices.
Becky
That's about 50% of the people at work. All I ever wanted was to have kids. Thank God I have some, and it's even better than I hoped it would be or could have ever imagined.
There's no way to adequately explain the intensity of love that I felt when my first was born. The way I try to explain it is that my heart went out from me and joined to my daughter, like an iron bond.
And it is a sacrifice.....of time, effort, money, care, etc.
A willing sacrifice, I might add, if one's heart is truly motivated to bring & nurture new life into this world.
My sil & hubby didn't.....they wanted all the time for themselves and their hedonistic activities.
But they are honest enough to admit it.
Maintaining and pursuing a good marriage is sacrifice too!
Sacrifice & compromise from both partners.
But it can work.....and like anything that's worthy....it takes trial & error, lots of forgiveness and IMO, a good Biblical foundation.
Don't be too hard on your friend. Some of us are better equiped to lead a family life than others. History is repleat with men, often great men who weren't cut out for marriage or children.