[PayNoAttentionManBehindCurtain]

I understand alot of issues go into making a decision to have/not have children.

My post read "people who do not have children because of the "sacrifice" they would have to make.

I'm speaking of the people who do not want to give up "anything" who consider having children "giving up freedom/stuff/time" Yes, children change your life alot, but to view that change as having to "give up" or sacrifice, is sad, and yes selfish, IMO. What about the gains that come. Children will pretty much love their parents unconditionally. Where else can you get that? It's a wonderful gift.

Becky

[najida]

Oh, I agree that you gain a lot having a child....IF you really want that child. And are emotionally equipped/fixed yourself to have a child.

The bizarre thing is, too many people are having kids for all the wrong reasons and they all seem to be the worst people to have children- emotionally, spiritually and financially.

[HairOfTheDog]

There's some selfishness in any decision, not that there's anything wrong with that.

And it's not because I don't think I'd be a good parent or find joy in it, or that I don't want to make any sacrifices. One look around at the way I change my life and limit what I do for my animals would show you that. And I like kids, as visitors. It's just that I'm not sure I want that lifestyle. If things had gone like the rule book said, and I'd have married at 18 or 25 instead of 36, maybe I'd feel different, and my kids would now be 10 and able to ride that silly pony I'm not sure why I own ;~D But at this point....