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To: Age of Reason; Motherbear

"Not all women are so possessive."

That's not the only issue.

Admittedly I am judging by the only standard I have, which is my own experience.

My wife and I, over almost 19 years of marriage, have developed a level of emotional intimacy that I will arbitrarily designate as "maximal" for us.

I think it would be impossible for me to develop and maintain that same level of intimacy with two or more women at the same time. Since I think I am fairly ordinary, that leads me to doubt that any man could develop and maintain his personal level of maximum intimacy with two or more women.

That would mean that a man with more than one wife would be shortchanging all but one of them. In that situation, he might be unable to develop maximum intimacy with any of them, and so would be shortchanging all of them *and* himself.

In a monogamous society, a married couple reach a point at which they say, "Okay, we're middle-aged, we're not 'hot' any more, but we have this relationship of love and trust, shared adversities and joys, and that is a much deeper and more mature kind of happiness than sexual adventurism." In a polygamous society, maybe instead the man goes out and gets himself a new eighteen-year-old wife.

It's "one flesh," not "two fleshes" or "six fleshes."

Sure, we all know what kind of urges men have. As Jeff Foxworthy says, you see an old guy going down the hall at the old-folks home with a walker, and what he's thinking is, "I'd like a beer, and I'd like to see something naked."

But the greater happiness, and the greater good for society, is to be found in putting that aside and cleaving to your wife. Singular.

Motherbear despises people who believe in polygamy.

I personally think that, even in our monogamous society, guys who chuck their wife and kids for a younger woman are even worse.


150 posted on 06/25/2005 11:16:27 PM PDT by dsc
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To: dsc

"I personally think that, even in our monogamous society, guys who chuck their wife and kids for a younger woman are even worse."

I personally think the same. Shouldn't we make that illegal? And how would polygamy make that MORE likely? I would think it'd be LESS likely.

If the problem is not polygamy but screwing around and dumping your kids in the divorce, then ban divorce and immoral screwing around. Enforce the fornication laws on the books.


156 posted on 06/25/2005 11:30:22 PM PDT by LibertarianInExile (<-- sick of faux-conservatives who want federal government intervention for 'conservative things.')
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To: dsc
#150

A literary work of art!
181 posted on 06/26/2005 11:11:02 AM PDT by byablue (Do not let the fear of striking out hold you back - Babe Ruth)
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