You fail to recognize that the people inside the house have NO idea who is outside or what the hell they want. Somehow the idea that a PO is with them makes it 'OK'. To some. The person inside doesn't necessarily know A. That a police officer is there; B. If the person in a uniform is a real police officer; C. If the PO is arresting the people making the disturbance. All you know is that there is an adversarial situation in your front yard and that it is happening right now. And that is not a situation where a Welcome mat gets rolled out.
To understand this, you can't look at it with 20/20 hindsight. You have to try to see it as it was happening.
to the mother of a missing daughter.
A flaw in your forgiving scenario.
They came out, they were told Nat was missing, they were asked where she was, then they got into telling the son not to answer, being unhelpful and rude.
Making excuses for this isn't washing. You see this is not some bad neighborhood in the Bronx. This is Aruba, The sloots knew the cops, they knew who these people were.