You're basing your thinking on the idea that what we do matters. To the Calvinist, one can no more reject the Spirit (I stands for "Irresistable grace") than a rooster can not crow at dawn.
SD
That idea of being saved reminds me of Seuss's "Star Bellied Sneeches." The select get a great shirt with a star on the front....like some kind of spiritual caste system.
"And none shall be saved without stars upon thars."