OK, here it is! Ralph's Barbeque in Roanoke Rapids, N.C. at exit 173(I-95) --- about 1/8 of mile east off the exit. Vinegar based Barbeque at it's best, Brunswick Stew and Cold-Slaw like nowhere else in the world. Try it and say that preacher knew what he was talking about.
I'm in mtns now and miss BBQ sooo much. I saw recipe here - think I will try it.