False dichotomy. A more accurate analogy would be that some/many wives enjoy a cold beer on a hot day as much as their husbands do. Porn falls into the same category. People (both male and female) can enjoy porn, alcohol and other vices without becoming addicted.
Not so.
Research shows that most men who drink one beer a week do not become addicted.
Most men who start out whackin' to porn once a week, do.