You wouldn't happen to be one of my wife's siblings? Except for the paddle it sounds like her family. Nothing was more devastating than her father shaking his head and saying, "I am so disappointed in you."
LOL - so there's more than just me *scarred for life* by the "so disappointed" phrase ?
The funny thing is, it worked so well on me because I have a very vivid imagination and could imagine all sorts of consequences. My sister, on the other hand, had a much harder psyche and could easily resist this type of conscience-raising.