"I don't care how mad I ever was at my sisters, we never kicked holes in walls "
Because you (and I, as a kid) knew there'd be CONSEQUENCES. Some parents still don't want to hurt their kids' self-esteem.
My a$$ would've been thrashed, rightfully so, had I kicked in a wall during a sibling dispute.
That's the part I never get.
I got my butt whipped quite severely and fairly regularly and if
anything, my self esteem benefitted from it. To let a kid run roughshod
over the parents is one of the worst disservices you can do to a child.
There were times when I absolutely hated my parents but I thank them both today.