I think Dr. Laura's book about the proper caring and feeding for men was as about 100% accurate as you will ever get.
She caught a lot of flack for that book, but she was dead on 100%!
A man wants some appreciation, not constant bullshido about small frivolous insignificant things that turn otherwise nice moments into frustrations.
As far a sex goes, I can't think of one person I know who does not hear the same, repeatedly from their spouse or significant other:
1. I'm tiiirrreeedd. -
2. I'm depressed
3. I'm not in the mood.
4. I have a headache
When men see that these very same women are fully energized to go to the mall or to go visit some friend's kid or something, these bullshido things listed about are obviously not true. The men then internalizes these things in a very hurtful manner and see no upside to then always trying please the significant other. Ask any man to be hinest about this and he will tell you the same.
Here is my take on the following:
1. I'm tired - Honey, but you always seem so energized to
see your mother and go shopping.
2. I'm depressed - Honey just because you did not get a
Coach bag this week, get over it.
3. I'm not in the mood - To much to write.
4. I have a headache - see a doctor.
That bool sold very well. I love that book. It should say a lot about the state of things between men and women. I hear from a lot of men that they cheat on their wives because their wives don't love them and don't respect them. this is before cheating and what makes they stray so they say. I really do think men don't get enough respect from women which is why I try to be as respectful as I can.
Dr. Laura did hit the nail on the head with that - it's a shame that so many women out there think that showing genuine appreciation for their man is somehow a bad quality.
The truth is that men very much want to please their women, and that's the best feedback that that can get. Indeed, I know in my own case (and with many men I know), the path to alienation begins with a sense that I am consistently unappreciated. When I am on that path, it really is only a matter of time before I find a woman who does appreciate me.