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Here we go again.... this kind of social chatter occurs every few days on FR, it seems(during the Schiavo mess, there was a bit of a lull..)Maybe it is needed I guess.

BUT-- I have some questions-- and I think other men have them too, but are afraid to ask, for fear of retaliation from other Freepers. Since I ALWAYS get flamed, at nearly every post, I am getting used to it now.

(1) in the mid to later '80's, A study was made by some prominent psychologists, stating that men should NOT be turned on ,by a woman's dress, in other words, appearance, and clothing, or, lack of such. IE;if a naked woman walks by a man, he should NOT respond, either verbally OR physically. This was on Oprah a LONG time ago, and led to the Visual-harassment laws now present, where a man (ONLY a man) can get CHARGED by LOOKING at a woman, in skimpy attire, for more than 9 seconds!!)(IMHO-- all of this was engendered by the homosexual movement, designed to drive a wedge between the normal male-female relationship and flirting skills, but, I digress....)

(2) Women get upset because men, especially nice men, don't talk to them much.... BUT... a MAN can get CHARGED with HARASSMENT for merely telling a woman "you look nice today", or asking out a woman ONCE, or similar. SO-- how does a man safely approach another woman, without fear of repercussions?

(3) some women say "all sex with men is rape", I think these are probably lesbians. BUT-- you have all of these channels, that cater to the "men are always rapists/murders/molesters", such as "lifetime", daily grinding this into womens heads.

(4) if women do NOT want men to look at them, WHY then, do they dress in such a way, as to get men to do so? If they do not want men to look, who then, do they desire to notice them? other women? I do not ask this, to be funny-- rather, it seems that today, a lOT of women and womens groups, are sending so many mixed messages to men, such as-- stay away, or i'll sue, then, "where are you?, or "don't look at me" and then"why won't he notice me?, don't speak to me, or i'll sue, and then, "why won't he just talk to me"... and such. so what is it-- are men supposed to ignore women, or talk to them, and when is it safe to do so, without "breaking the law?