The Fox infobabe said afterwards that the family decided to be gracious because they think there is still hope that HINO will allow them to bury Terri.
Michael still calling the shots. Dangling the family on a string. Where the Schindler family finds the grace and restraint, I'll never know.
Holy Spirit. They pray for guidance, and that their actions be guided. Anybody can do that. It's God's gift to all of us.