[Clorinox]

"Wouldn't it be more accurate to ask if you would want your spouse to make a decision like that based on a throw-away, emotional remark that you made after a family member's funeral when you were 23 years old?"

I would expect to know my spouses wishes regarding this marriage after so many years of marriage. I have only been seeing my girlfriend for 5 years and I know for sure how she would like to be treated should such a tragedy occur. I would definitely think that the husband has a much better understanding of his wife than 3rd party second guessers who have never even met her.

[queenkathy]

As long as we are being hypothetical here...What if you, yourself, are in a vps...Or so they (the Dr's) are saying while standing at your bedside...Like Kate Adamson, you can hear them discuss your demise. Your loved one has long since brought another into their bed and they now have 2 children to show for their love...Your love brings their new love to your bedside...Would you be so sure they are doing what you want? Inside you are screaming "help" but to no avail, you can't move, yet you can think...

Sometimes when I wake up my brain is awake before my body and I can't move...and I try...gradually the rest of "me" wakes up but it's scary for a minute.What hell it must be.

[SilentServiceCPOWife]

I have only been seeing my girlfriend for 5 years and I know for sure how she would like to be treated should such a tragedy occur. I would definitely think that the husband has a much better understanding of his wife than 3rd party second guessers who have never even met her.

Have you and your girlfriend sat down and discussed these issues at length? It sounds like you have. My point in my reply to you was that Michael never claimed that he and Terri had a deep discussion about end of life issues. He claimed that she made a remark along the lines of not wanting to be hooked up to a bunch of tubes after a family member's funeral. Do you really believe that those kind of remarks are enough prove that someone would want to die under those conditions? I've told my husband to shoot me if I ever start sounding like my mother. Do you think that a court would take that seriously as a defense in a murder trial?

Regarding "third party second guessers"...would that include her parents?

[NYCVirago]

I would expect to know my spouses wishes regarding this marriage after so many years of marriage. I have only been seeing my girlfriend for 5 years and I know for sure how she would like to be treated should such a tragedy occur. I would definitely think that the husband has a much better understanding of his wife than 3rd party second guessers who have never even met her.

Yeah, never mind Michael Schiavo telling a friend 15 years ago that he and Terri were young and had never discussed what to do in such a case. Funny how Terri's supposed wish to die didn't surface until after all the malpractice suit money was won.