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"Yep, it sure was. Terri didn't have a chance once she was moved there"

That statement reminds me of the story of my father's last days..
He had always been a very strong man.. worked straight through a massive heart attack..didn't know he'd had one til the doctor told him during a checkup! He over came quadruple bypass and even cancer.. then he had a stroke while alone in his place... he apparently hit his head very hard.. he hovered near death for over a week.. then slowly got better.. still had a ways to go when they released him from hospital.. but he had to go somewhere with constant care.. all that would take him was this particular rest home.. I'd heard mixed reviews about the place and I didn't have any other options.. The staff seemed pretty good, he seemed to be getting care and therapy.. but he wasn't really improving ..and he slept ALOT.. I should have smelled something was up when they sent hospice workers over.. I didn't even know what that meant at the time.. I just thought they were nice ladies..
The doctor then told me they were putting him on anti-depressants because he seemed depressed.... I asked.. how do you know when he can't even speak and spends most of his time sleeping due to the drugs he was given.. they stammered out some answer.. but I was too meek to push it.. I figured they knew what they were doing.. he was out of it more and more til one day he finally died.... the exact same day his insurance was to run out....

He was only 59.. I didn't press the issue... I didn't even think about it because my grief was so deep.. I had just lost my mother the year before.. that was 5 years ago.
If only I had known then what I know now.....