There is only one definition that counts, and that is God's, and it's the only one I care about.
We are hurt and angry, because we wanted Terri to live.
We have to realize that God showed us Terri so we can know what's going on, the evil that has become commonplace in the current world, and we can realize how important it is to be seen doing the Christian walk, standing up for life, and to we witnesses by our own actions to his way.
Come, Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of Your faithful and enkindle in them the fire of Your love. Send forth Your Spirit and they shall be created. And You shall renew the face of the earth.