"We have memorial services for the departed on the 3rd, 9th, and 40th day of their repose. The Church has given us some explanations as to why these are important times of transition for the soul, and there are too many experiences that Orthodox Christians (including me) have had surrounding those days to treat this lightly."
We've had experiences alright, all of us so far as I know!
I have said before and I will repeat: I am either blessed or afflicted with whatever blessed or afflicted St. Joan.