Thank you, extremely rough day. We will have another try at it in the light of day. Things have been more difficult since I moved back out here, I openly admit to a bit of stress (and probably some insensitive remarks). Of course I do not want anyone here (or anyone who comes here as a US Citizen) to be harmed.
I can only be reminded of years gone by when I would tell my children, you will break your neck or put your eye out if you do that.
I can happily report that my children grew up sound and solid no broken necks and they each have both of their eyes, so I have been wrong before.