As an unmarried (and consequently childless) woman, I can relate to this article. Being unmarried adds a whole other layer to the issue for me, but I must say that I get annoyed by reactions from both liberals and conservatives to my life circumstances. From liberals, I often get a knowing look of "oh, good for you to refuse to be oppressed by a man," when in fact I am a strong supporter of marriage (one man and one woman, of course) and would love to marry, have children, and be a stay-at-home mom. From conservatives, I sometimes get looks of pity or even disdain--the "you poor thing, your life means less" look. I don't want to be assumed to be a feminazi just because I'm currently single and without kids and therefore largely focused on my career, and I also don't want to be told that my value is basically on hold unless and until I have a "family of my own."
We all still get along. tHE BOTTOM LINE OF THIS STORY IS MORE SIMPLE AND CAN BE GENERALIZED....PEOPLE GENERLLY SPEND MORE TIME WITH PEOPLE SIMILAR TO THEMSELVES, FOR MANY REASONS. iT DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN'T HAVE FRIENDS WHO MIGHT BE LITTLE DIFERENT, HECK i HAVE MILLUIONARE FRIENDS AND FRIENDS SHO HAVE NO MONEY.
I wonder how many of those reputed "conservatives" have paid attention to what Dr. Laura has said on this matter. Firstly, do not get married unless you are truly ready for it and can "afford" it (both financially and emotionally) and, secondly, only have kids if you can give them a proper situation, generally inclusive of stay-at-home motherhood and extensive effort in terms of educating them in the current debauched cultural environment. What "conservative" would want to promote such things as excessive financial debt, latch-key kids, nannies, and government schools?
Oh yes those are my sentiments exactly.
I own my condo and am treated slightly pittingly by the other condo members who are all married and either have kids or are planning ot have them very soon.
I absolutely want and am looking forward to settling down to a traditional lifestyle, I just got a later start on things (taking care of a very ill mother for years) and I dont want to get married to just anyone.
Much better to really adore the guy I am with and be able to emotionally and mentally give my future kid sthe best me possible.
Id love to tell this to the semi strangers who treat me like a spinster (Im not even 30 yet!)
Argh.
you should not be judged.
even folks married who don't have kids should not be scorned.
but, it's the reason some of them give or nay, celebrate for eschewing spawning that draws ire.
like this gal's career obsession or the lefty platitudes or the "we need the time for each other stuff"
self obsession in their case and well and good they don;t have children,
but sadly, the folks who should be having the most here in the west are those having the least and in the longterm...this will turn the "first world" on it's head.