[Minuteman23]

To those who are calling childless couple selfish, stop and think---isn't it more selfish to have children that you don't want? I think that's even more common and the children suffer. They can tell always when they're not wanted. It's called neglect.

[countess]

To those who are calling childless couple selfish, stop and think---isn't it more selfish to have children that you don't want?

These are the first people to remind you of what a tremendous sacrifice they have made.

[retrokitten]

I never get that either. Whenever there is an article like this there are tons of posts calling people who don't want kids selfish. Isn't it more selfish to have kids just for the sake of having kids?

My extremely liberal sister in-law (a teacher) and brother are trying to have a baby. My cousin asked her if she was going to keep working after she has a baby and my sister in-laws response was, "Of course! I can't lose my tenure!" THAT is selfish!

[Aquinasfan]

isn't it more selfish to have children that you don't want?

Many parents don't want children. Yet I've never met anyone who wanted to give his child back.

God is smarter than we are.

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isn't it more selfish to have children that you don't want?

I don't think I've ever met anyone who had a baby, but then failed to love that baby in some fashion, even if only instinctually.

Most (childless) people can't understand how quickly and totally one becomes attached to a child until it happens to them.

It is instinct. (The very small percentage of women who kill their children at childbirth are mentally deranged.)