That's true. Men actually do want to love women and do like to idealize them. But it's impossible to do either when the women are not worthy of respect.
Many of the black women I know are indeed worthy of respect--they're hard-working, faith-filled, beautiful Christian ladies who are truly "steel roses," at once strong and feminine. But too many others behave like skanks, having four abortions and having all of their illegitimate children by different fathers. How can men respect that? If these women ever said "no" to their men, they would receive more respect.
The trouble is, they have to say no as a group. Because if the individual woman says no to the individual man, he just moves on to a member of the Immoral Majority, the women who are more willing. If the women of America were to stand up as a group and say no--no to immoral behavior, no to low expectations, no to ugly, unfeminine behavior--they might start getting some of the engagement rings they aren't able to get now.
I also know good, respectable black women and black men. But they're a minority statistically (over 70% of black children illegitimate) and morally. Maybe they're trying to take a stand against the degradation of their community; certainly it's difficult even for middle-class suburban white people!
It's no surprise that hip-hop performers despise women - they're treated like Saudi princes because they have money and fame. In their experience, women will do anything for money, and there's nothing respectable about that!
It used to be part of "proper" female culture that the "easy" girls were ostracized, for just this reason: once the number of "easy" girls passes a threshold, the "not so easy" girls are at a severe disadvantage