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To: SmithL; Rodney King
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I try not to speak ill of the dead, so I won't.

Why not? Where does this come from?

I have the same instinct as well. I'm just wondering where it comes from and is it really necessary with public figures being discussed publicly.

I don't mean nasty personal things such as "it's great they died" etc...

When Stalin died, for example, were people to not say anything bad?

9 posted on 12/28/2004 10:08:44 AM PST by tallhappy (Juntos Podemos!)
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To: tallhappy
Why not? Where does this come from?

I think it's juse a deceny thing. Kind of like when I am a guest in someones home I will try not to point out that the couch is ugly. Of course, I was happy when Uday and the other one were killed, so there is no clear standard.

14 posted on 12/28/2004 10:12:12 AM PST by Rodney King (No, we can't all just get along.)
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To: tallhappy

Every time someone dies, we have the same discussions on FR, usually starts out with someone saying something nasty about the dead, then someone chastising them, then someone defending them. And on and on. It's par for the course around here.


29 posted on 12/28/2004 10:21:44 AM PST by RushCrush ("Of the four wars in my lifetime none came about because the U.S. was too strong." Reagan)
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To: tallhappy

I've always understood the death-etiquette thing to be about the inability of the dead to now defend themselves. But frankly, I don't get it either, TH....their lives and statements speak for them....even after death.


48 posted on 12/28/2004 10:31:42 AM PST by anniegetyourgun
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To: tallhappy

>>>I try not to speak ill of the dead, so I won't.>>>

***Why not? Where does this come from?***

Weeelll, some goody goody decided that we shouldn't speak ill of the dead because they can't defend themselves.

But any time the NY Times takes up the cause of the dead, I feel completely, entirely free to repudiate them.

I pray for the soul of Susan Sonntag, but I rejoice that the witch is no longer free to spew her hatred of the U.S.


55 posted on 12/28/2004 10:34:44 AM PST by kitkat (Merry CHRISTmas, everyone)
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To: tallhappy
I try not to speak ill of the dead, so I won't.

As long as the dead continue voting heavily Democratic, I’ll feel free to speak ill of them.

115 posted on 12/28/2004 12:38:53 PM PST by Minn
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To: tallhappy
I don't mean nasty personal things such as "it's great they died" etc...

How about,"The world became a better place today.".

126 posted on 12/28/2004 1:50:55 PM PST by trickyricky
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To: tallhappy
I try not to speak ill of the dead, so I won't.
Why not? Where does this come from?
I have the same instinct as well. I'm just wondering where it comes from and is it really necessary with public figures being discussed publicly.
I don't mean nasty personal things such as "it's great they died" etc...
When Stalin died, for example, were people to not say anything bad?

When Stalin died plenty of people were too scared or shocked (in his Empire) or too happy (elsewhere) to bother to comment.

The taboo might have something to do with allowing the family to grieve, and people do come off looking obnoxious if they make gleeful comments about someone's passing on the day they die.

There may also be a notion of reciprocity behind it. One talks well or not at all of others when they die in hopes they'll do the same when one passes on oneself. In today's Internet world, though, there's always somebody somewhere who breaks the taboo.

I guess there's a threshold between people who are really unredeemable, like Hitler or Stalin, and those who might have some saving feature. In Sontag's case, she did speak out against Communism in 1982, too late perhaps but with a force that implied a condemnation of her earlier enthusiasms, and she did introduce some important writers to the American public. Is that enough?

However obnoxious she was in her prime, she looks more and more like a figure out of the distant past. Some people will feel a need to remember, others don't or would rather forget. I'd just as soon forget her offenses -- and her with them.

Sontag was more than an ordinary novelist whose politics are beside the point, but less than one of the world's actual decision-makers. So how one responds is a judgment call, and people will disagree. I wouldn't have any problem keeping quiet for a few days, if nothing else it would give us a chance to think over what we really want to say.

170 posted on 12/28/2004 7:15:59 PM PST by x
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