The man in the workplace, on the other hand, is usually more agressive and control oriented. To abdicate control in BOTH places would be demasculating.
Are you suggesting that every male should marry a woman that is less accomplished?
Whose salary will be missed more in the case of marriage and child birth assuming of course the chauvinistic male has the higher salary? And who is more able to care for the newborn assuming of course natural feeding is the choice?
Dumbass studies, dumbass results, dumbass waste of my taxes........... Time to re-examine the government's waste spending on dumbass stuff!!!!!
I see it the same way you do.
Men want respect and control. When the male is the boss over the female then he has both. It's something built in to the male.
In all seriousness, men want to date/marry subordinate women because of control.
Nope! Not control. Order. It's the way marriage was created. Husband subordinate to God. Wife subordinate to Husband. You know, biblical stuff......
I couldn't disagree more. In my experience, the reason why high-achieving women don't end up with lower status/lower income men is simply because the *women* don't want them. The lower-status/income guys are often *very* interested in the women, but this interest is very seldom reciprocated.
The reason is simple: Women -- but NOT men -- have an innate "status" filter that causes them to automatically rule out men who are perceived (truthfully or not) as being "below" them. To put it another way, women want to marry "up", whereas men just don't care.
It's true that guys may start shying away from high-power, successful women after having been shot down many times, because they've learned not to waste their time trying and perhaps because some of the snubs were quite rude (even from supposedly "Christian" women). But even this avoidance is ultimately a consequence of the *womens'* own preferences.
What is so sexy about dating/marrying a subordinate woman who can not cook, can not keep a house clean, and can not think and make decisions for herself? Men settle for these kind of subordinate women? I feel sorry for you, because I know from experience, you're not happy. It's cheaper to keep her. I'm a working, professional woman who works in an all-men environment. I sit at my desk all the time when I over hear the stay-at-home married women call their husbands at work on the phone and nag them. The men even tell me that their wives can't cook, and do not have a dinner waiting for them when they come home after working hard all day. They expect their husbands to take them out to dinner and/or bring dinner home. Friday night is pizza night for most of them. Who wants to eat pizza and fast food every Friday or during the week? If I was married to a man who is the provider and works hard all day at work, you can rest assure he will come home and smell the aroma of a very nice hot, home-cooked meal waiting for him.
Smartlady