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I still don't know about that answer you gave me. What if ? I put my career, my job, my car, my boat ( if I had one ) my football games , before my wife ? how would she feel ? that is a lame excuse to use because of " life gets to hectic " .
I am sure a lot of women would resent their husbands and DO RESENT ! their husbands because their husbands put their football games before their wives, their careers, their jobs, their children, their friends.
I am sorry, regardless if I was married or not, putting other things before your spouse because of life getting to hectic, is not a good reason to not put your spouse first.
When we put those other things first, there is something wrong there.
Just what are those things that need to be juggle in life ?
You mean ? people can't stop seeing their friends or families , for example, instead of seeing your family and friends 2 or 3 times week, see them maybe once a week, to " MAKE TIME " for your spouse.
You mean ? people can't sacrifice a beer at the pub or bar and spend that time with your spouse ?
Yes, there are times when people need time on their own, but, I am talking about priorities, SO ? I guess this culture is telling us, according to what you told me, is ? to tell your spouse or " LOVED ONE " HONEY ? your not as important as my job, or career, or my family or friends, so ? I am going to spend more time with them, than you, I hope you don't mind, please don't feel like a 2nd fiddle because we are just " TO BUSY " to spend time together.
Is it any wonder ? their is so much divorce in this world ?

Is it any wonder ? their is so much divorce in this world ?

The reason why there are so many divorces is because people don't work on keeping their marriage together.

Marriage is a partnership .. a 50/50 union where both sides contribute to make it one

I tried the whole "I am women hear me roar" stuff .. I tried to juggle a job, a marriage and children and found that old saying "if mama ain't happy, nobody's happy" was true

My husband and I talked about it and decided the best thing to do was for me to stay home, raise the kids and when the time came ... I'd go back out in the work force.

He works very hard to support his family and I don't complain when he takes his trips with this buddies to see the NASCAR races or goes on his hunting trips, which ALWAYS happen on my birthday

I don't complain when I'm home with small children and having to shoveling 3 ft of snow when he's either on a trip or has to be at work

And he doesn't complain if I happen to buy something

Since I take care of the bills and the accounting of our finances, I am fully aware of what money comes in and what doesn't ... which is fine with my husband because he hates dealing with that stuff

When my mother was sick and dying in the hospital last year .. he didn't complain that I wasn't home taking care of him and the kids .. he understood that my mother needed me and that I needed to be with her

Just as I understand when he has to take time to care for things for his parents

I guess my point is .. Life is a juggle .. you never know what life will throw at you and you do the best you can .. and sometimes you don't always come first .. sometimes you have to think of others and take a back seat.