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Lisa M. Montgomery was strangely obsessed with making people believe she was pregnant, said Carl Boman, her former husband.
“I never would have thought she was capable of this.”
Carl Boman has had 20 years to figure out Lisa Montgomery, his ex-wife and the mother of his four teenage children.
He said he knew her as untruthful and strangely obsessed with making people believe she was pregnant.

But when Lisa M. Montgomery was accused Dec. 17 of strangling another woman to death and stealing her eight-month fetus, Boman saw her in a chilling new light.

“We can paint any picture we want. She is a chronic liar, very selfish and her self-esteem is very low. She is very critical of others. She is not the kind of person you would want to be friends with. But I'm still shocked.”

Six days before the Dec. 16 killing of Stinnett, Boman had filed for custody of two of the four children he had with Montgomery, court records show. She had had custody.

On Monday, Boman, in his first extended interview since the crime, speculated that his ex-wife was desperate to avoid having to admit she wasn't pregnant.

“She was faced with the fact she would have had to admit in court she was not pregnant,” Boman said from the cluttered porch of his two-bedroom Bartlesville home.

“That is what we were going to use against her for her mental state.”

Boman, 43, said Montgomery had “got to the point where she did not want to be proven wrong because she would have been proven wrong in front of her husband and his family and the whole community. She did this to protect her own self.”

In the months before Stinnett's murder, Montgomery had told her current husband, Kevin Montgomery, her children and people who knew her in Melvern that she was pregnant.

Boman believes that his ex-wife saw pregnancy as a way of getting attention, but he said he never knew her to be violent.

Twice in the 1990s, when the Boman family lived in Arkansas and later in New Mexico, Montgomery pretended to be pregnant, even though she had had her tubes tied after a difficult pregnancy with her last child in 1990, Boman said.

The relationship begins

Boman met his future wife when she was in high school. He was seven years older and just out of the Navy. When they began dating, Boman's father and Montgomery's mother also were dating, Boman said. Both had had previous marriages.

Montgomery, then Lisa Hedberg, graduated from high school in Cleveland, Okla., in 1986. Three months later, she and Boman married. By that time, his father and her mother also had married, Boman said.

Lisa and Carl Boman had three girls and one boy in less than four years. Doctors advised against having more children, and Lisa Boman did not express any particular remorse over the years about the tubal ligation decision, Boman said.

The family moved frequently, living in several towns in Oklahoma as well as in San Diego, New Mexico and Arkansas.

“We went through a lot of different problems in our marriage,” Boman said, referring to her untruthfulness as just one of the issues.

“When I put my foot down, a lot of the lies would stop,” he said.

Boman said his wife was unfaithful. Court records show he filed for divorce in 1993 in Oklahoma. He then moved to Arkansas, but she moved there, too, because taking care of the children alone was too much to handle, Boman said.

In Arkansas, the couple grew closer again and became active in the Mormon Church.

“We started going to church and we remarried,” Boman said of their reconciliation in 1994. “We made a real effort to work it out. At the time, I think there was still love between us.”

After the remarriage, the family moved to New Mexico, where Boman's father lived. She worked in the circulation department of The Deming Headlight, the daily paper in Deming, N.M., and he worked at a restaurant.

But problems in the marriage resurfaced, and this time, in 1998, Montgomery filed for the divorce without stating a reason in her petition, court records show. After the divorce, he moved back to Oklahoma, and she moved to the Topeka area, Boman said.

Life often was a financial struggle for the Bomans.

He has worked at various jobs, mostly building construction, but is on disability because of an elbow injury. In recent years, Montgomery has worked at fast-food outlets and a convenience store, Boman said.

The couple has had periodic disputes over child support. Boman fell behind on child support payments more than once, according to Kansas court records.

Lisa Boman married Kevin Montgomery in 2000. The couple lived in a house near Melvern with her children. His children from a previous marriage live with their mother.

Kevin Montgomery has not been implicated in his wife's alleged plot to abduct Stinnett's baby. He has said he thought she was pregnant.

Boman said neither he nor the children have been in contact with Lisa Montgomery since her arrest. She is being held at the Leavenworth Detention Center.

Boman hopes the children can resume a normal life. He plans to seek counseling for the family.

“We're going to get out of this, and we're going to be better for it,” Boman said. “The Stinnett family is where our hearts are. It's a great loss on our side. It's a great loss on that side. Those are the ones we feel for.”

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