MOSTLY AGREE WITH YOU.
Certainly BEHAVIOR MOD is CRUCIAL, imho.
Not all touchy feely therapists would be hurtful in this situation. If she is touch starved--highly possible--it can be a very crucial aspect of behavior mod. I'd reward her with touch to strengthen the message that she was loved period--every chance I got and especially as reinforcement.
Certainly the family needs to be cooperating, imho, with a family systems approach type therapist to dealing with this problem as well as the very crucial behavior mod.
I didn't mean "touchy" literally. Just the overly supportive, endlessly affirming the patient's "feelings" type, who often let patients (not just anorexics) avoid confronting unpleasant facts for as long as they want. I don't believe that an anorexic patient benefits by having an "understanding" therapist who listens/responds supportively to endless rambling by the patient about her feelings, self-image, yadda, yadda, and never stops the patient, saying "Hey, that makes no sense, here are the facts, you need to stop thinking that nonsense".