Thanks. Many people have suggested we yank her out of school at once. That may be the course we take, but the professionals we have consulted with already have echoed your thought: That making her quit her school (where she does well, has friends, and absolutely loves it there), could really push her over the edge.
If it comes to that, it comes to that. But if there's a way into treatment without that (for example, her school's health department is ready to jump into her treatment), we'll go that way.
I think that's very wise. And most good schools are keenly aware of the problem and usually have a LOT of built-in therapeutic responses ready and waiting. They HAVE to the problem is so sadly common.
I think I MIGHT seriously CONSIDER butting in a bit more as a parent and asking for a profile of each of the helping professionals likely to contact your daughter. I'd want personality variables as well as treatment strengths and weaknesses and tendencies. Then, I might set down with her and talk through her personality etc. and the various profiles and then insist on the best match being the one that's made. IF THE SCHOOL IS RESISTENT TO THIS, then I'd ask them who will make the assignment of your daughter to which professionals and based on what criteria. I'd insist that it be made on the above variables and NOT on convenience issues.
just imho.
I think you can have a lot of confidence in such school programs if they are ran even half way right. And you should be able to detect that within a few hours of exploration and contact.
Thanks for your kind reply.