"Men and women should be equal...period. That goes for child rearing and working outside the home."
I was pointing out that it should be up to the couple, not you, to arrange their relationship, divide up chores and careers. The above statement is rigid, won't work for everyone, probably isn't desirable for everyone.
I get from your statement the impression that you look down on stay at home mothers.
My wife of 30 years is my best friend, which by definition makes us more or less equal. It's what I want in a wife. But people tend not to be exactly "equal," no matter the sex.
I tend to be comfdrtable with traditional male and female roles, as long as both sexes recieve equal respect.
I think my daughter is going to be a career woman, which is OK with me. As it will be if, once she has children, she decides to stay at home. Or not stay at home.
All my life growing up I only wanted to be a Mother. Not a Doctor or Lawyer or anything else. Just a mother. I got what I wanted. My dream came true.
My daughters on the other hand have to work outside the home and take care of their kids. With their husbands help I might add.
Then we agree. I like my role as wife and mother. It's a role I chose. And according to my hubby and kids...I'm good at it.
Hey Sam. Id take it a step father and say its not desirable for most people. Absent cultural influences, I think women are naturally feminine and attracted to dominate males. Visa versa for men. Its not universal, just a trend. Its hard wired into or nature, but has been obscured by over reaching cultural reforms in the West late last century. But it wasnt complete, and I think its fading.