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Who set up Fatalis as arbiter of how and why women should be "grateful"? Where are you getting all this "never at any time in history have American women been so ungrateful?" Says who? By what criteria? Who and what am I supposed to be grateful for and how am I supposed to show it, that I'm already not?

Look, I'm about as conservative as it gets on most issues. I'm glad to be home raising my kids. I frankly like the traditional delineation of roles in my marriage, though I recognize and respect not everyone wants that. And I'll admit to having something in common with my more liberal sisterhood and that is: no one treats me like a doormat, a maid, or a plaything. I'm not on this planet to bolster the sagging ego of any man, even if he happens to be my husband. That doesn't make me "unfit" to be a wife or mother, that doesn't make me "ungrateful". It makes me a thinking, confident women who understands her own worth and value. If men -- be they American, Japanese, Russian, or what have you -- don't understand this, that is their problem and loss.

I'm not on this planet to bolster the sagging ego of any man, even if he happens to be my husband. That doesn't make me "unfit" to be a wife or mother, that doesn't make me "ungrateful". It makes me a thinking, confident women who understands her own worth and value.

Well said!

Who set up Fatalis as arbiter of how and why women should be "grateful"? Where are you getting all this "never at any time in history have American women been so ungrateful?" Says who? By what criteria? Who and what am I supposed to be grateful for and how am I supposed to show it, that I'm already not?

Sheesh, why are you taking this personally? If a generalization doesn't apply to you, it doesn't apply to you. That's how generalizations work.

I'm not on this planet to bolster the sagging ego of any man, even if he happens to be my husband. That doesn't make me "unfit" to be a wife or mother, that doesn't make me "ungrateful".

When a women gets married, and she is grateful for the sacrifices her husband makes for her, he will feel appreciated and his ego will be boosted and he will move mountains for his wife.

But, principles are principles.