My husband and I are conservative. We have a pretty "traditional" marriage in that I'm a stay-at-home mom and he works full time to support us. Most household chores are divided along the typical gender roles. OTOH, my husband has never and would never treat me like the "maid" or in a subservient manner of any kind. I can sympathize with women anywhere who reject that kind of behavior. If they think they can find respect from a man outside their own country, more power to them.
My married male Japanese friends (all doctors or corporate high level businessmen) all work 6 days a week and work from 7am until 10pm. They do come home for dinner for an hour around 5 or 6pm, but then back to work for another 3 hours or to a businessman's social club. Add in commuting time, and they are only at home about 6 or 7 hours a day to sleep. They mainly spend family time on Sundays or on a holiday in the summer or around New Year's.
My husband and I are the same way. And he has told me many times that he would be bored to tears if I was submissive and docile. One of the reasons why he fell in love with me was because he watched me stand my ground in a discussion with a group of men and he respected me for it.