What Japanese Women Want: A Western Husband

The Christian Science Monitor ^ | December 6, 2004 | Bennett Richardson

[Hi Heels]

Woody Allen is that you?

[najida]

Spinsters by choice are still spinsters, and they choose to remain single because they don't appreciate the men around them, which I've been saying.

Or maybe they are happy with their lives just as they are. Like, they don't need a man to have a life. Yaknowaddamean, jellybean?

[Campion]

I don't like not being appreciated. I didn't like being the workhorse and never hearing a kind word.

How much appreciating did you do? How many kind words did you give? Unasked? Unexpected? Out-of-the-blue? Many? Never? I don't know.

I do know that you wrote three short paragraphs above, and used the word "I", "me", "my", or "mine" 11 times.

I've been married to the same wonderful lady for 16 years, and have been with her for 21. Marriage is about self-sacrifice. It's about getting up everyday and sleepily asking yourself, "What can I do to make my mate's day better, easier, and happier?" It's about loving until it hurts, then until it really hurts, and sometimes beyond.

In short, for a Christian spouse ... marriage is fun, happy, fulfilling, warm, and wonderful ... but it's also going to Calvary and being tacked up on the Cross to die.

I try everyday to please my wife in a thousand little ways, but I'm ultimately not here to please her, nor she to please me. I'm here to make a better person and help her get to heaven ... and she's here to do the same for me. She'll never do that by feeding my selfishness, but by teaching me to die to myself and to live for the sake of loving others.

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[Just another Joe]

Although I would think its rare though.

Possibly. I think a lot of it is the way we were raised. Neither of us believe in divorce, both wanted a limited number of children, both weren't afraid to speak our minds, both willing to be talked into things if one could persuade the other it was better, etc.

The Navy DID try to dissuade us.
The last try was a statistic that 95% of American/Philippina marriages end in divorce in the first 5 years.

I do know a good number of other American/Philippina couples that have been married 7+ years that are still together.
A couple where the wife is DEFINITELY the boss. LOL

[Time is now]

My bad.....Her good.......makes me willing to hand wash some delicates....

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Hello. I "AM" a stay at home mom, always have been. I was lucky to be a stay at home mom.

All my life growing up I only wanted to be a Mother. Not a Doctor or Lawyer or anything else. Just a mother. I got what I wanted. My dream came true.

My daughters on the other hand have to work outside the home and take care of their kids. With their husbands help I might add.

[marajade]

"Neither of us believe in divorce..."

I don't either... but sometimes it just doesn't work out no matter how hard you work at it...

[Fatalis]

This "lack of gratitude' thing isn't part of my life, or my husband's, but it seems to be a big thing for you, so please explain... Exactly what do you offer that all women are increasingly ungrateful for?

LOL, I rest my case.

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LOL

[sawmill trash]

the ruling Liberal Democratic Party is anxiously drawing up plans to make it easier for young couples to raise children, through such measures as the provision of cheap public housing.


That sounds familiar !

[exile]

"Woody Allen is that you?"

Gadzooks No! That's just a joke I have with my wife. She laughs at it now, but my head still hurts when it rains.

[Sam Cree]

OK,I'll take that for a no!

[fritzz]

Women give sex for love, and men give love for sex.

I think that changes as time and age advances. At least it has for me. If I were single It would be different. I would want to know their name first.....just kidding..maybe.LOL.

[Just another Joe]

Woops, open mouth, insert post. Should have been post 121.
At least the link went to the right post. lol

[elfman2]

I’ve told my wife something similar. She gave be the go ahead contingent on making my first million (her first million).

[Sam Cree]

Hi guys!

[AmericanInTokyo]

And one can also be aware the great differences AMONG Japanese women. There are many older women (30s and 40s), who have completely different value systems when it comes to family values/loyalty and obligation (who learned these conservative concepts from their mothers) -- (but of course most of them are married, but many miserably), and younger single Japanese women in their late teens or 20s, to whom hip-hop, multiple fornicative partners, STDs, staying out all night, and never cooking a day in their life, is their central being.

One can meet Japanese women at the tops of their careers in law, banking, journalism, in a Christian church in Tokyo or perhaps on PhD work at Harvard or Princeton, or one could go to the Club Alliance disco at Yokosuka US Naval Base on a Friday night and see heavily made-up Japanese women in miniskirts who are drop-outs from high school, from broken homes, who go to a hotel with an American GI within 30 minutes of meeting him, only to bed down with a different GI the following weekend.

There are many different types of Japanese women, no different than the varieties of American women. One can marry into a life of love and warmth and intellectual excitement, or one can marry into a life of regrets and heartaches.

[exile]

"... men give love for sex."

That's not entirely true. The food's not bad either.

[JenB]

Shh, we don't want to get stoned for bein' uppity, ungrateful wimmin here.

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Then we agree. I like my role as wife and mother. It's a role I chose. And according to my hubby and kids...I'm good at it.