What? No, sorry. I am not attracted to other women at all but I think those who are attracted to the same sex CAN change. Personally, I view "being gay" the same as "being a pedophile" or "being a masochist" or "being a sexual sadist".
Pedophiles have strong, STRONG sexual desires that they can't seem to be rid of in spite of equally STRONG societal pressure. But it's not genetic. It is an attraction disorder, just like "homosexuals" have samesex attraction disorder. It is up to the individual whether or not they act on that attraction, but there is much more evidence that the disorder is primarily a result of environmental as opposed to genetic or inborn biological factors.
I've known several "sensitive little boys who played with dolls" who grew up, dated and married women, had kids and lived normal lives. I've known a lot of men who behaved in ways normally associated with "homosexuals" but these men were attracted to women and never had sex with other men.
In fact, I would say that how you treat a "sensitive little boy who plays with dolls" when he is a child may have something to do with what happens to him sexually as he gets older.
"Sensitive boys who play with dolls" are often teased and mistreated by the male figures in their lives, be they older brothers, peers or fathers. They may yearn for the love of another man. Perhaps it is much like little girls with distant or absent fathers, who then grow up to sleep with every man in sight, but "sluttishness" is not genetic. Along comes an older man, more than willing to show that "sensitive little boy" the love he thinks he has been missing. The "sensitive little boy" is quite the easy target. It's no wonder that the majority of male homosexuals were molested. It is also no wonder that the average male homosexual has far more sexual partners than the average heterosexual. It is no wonder that homosexual adoptive and foster parents are more likely to molest children in their care than heterosexual adoptive and foster parents.
I don't deny that for many homosexual men, the attraction they feel for other men is very strong and no amount of willpower ALONE can change it (although for some, therapy and prayer has helped them to become attracted to women as they naturally should be). I also don't deny that it is possible for homosexual men to display biological differences in the brain. Please do not forget that the brain changes depending on your activities and behavior through life.
But homosexual sex is ALWAYS a choice. And there are many people who have to deal with strong tendencies (pedophiles, alcoholics, abusers prone to violence, shoe fetishists, etc.), but no excuses are made for them.
How many people on this forum - even commenting on this thread - had habits in the past, vicious or sinful or degrading or illegal - that we have now given up? Anything from pornography, to drugs, to acohol abuse, theft, sexual misconduct of all kinds, lying, etc.
Some of us may have had more of a tendency for one kind of illicit behavior, some another. Maybe some were more virtuous by nature and weren't so tempted. But temptations to vice can be overcome. That's what human life is all about.
Excellent comments. All true, and well said!
Indeed. This is key to understanding why many studies are debunked. Great post.