I am much of your opinion, Palming the ball seems to be normal, Double dribbling, walking even pushing and shoving are ignored, especially when its done by the higher priced players.
There is way too much of that: but if you want to see a team playing ball closer to how it should be played, watch the Phoenix Suns. They move the ball, score points, pass, and do not engage in "back-down" thugball.