Ah...the way it was worded, I'm sure many assumed that your children were young. Perhaps mentioning that your family planned to do this, instead of you not giving gifts to your wife and children, would have been a bit clearer. :-) My brother is in the service now, and although he would be touched by a stranger's generosity, he would not want a small child going without gifts to provide that generosity.
One thing...if you live near a military installation, perhaps your family could invite some single servicemembers far from home to share your holiday meal. I know of several people who do this and it means so much to the troops to have a nice meal and friendly people to spend the holiday with when they cannot be at home. I know that different bases have programs like this that allow community members to "adopt" servicemembers for the holidays.
Obviously, there are the usual care package/phone card/etc. programs.
If I miswored I appoligize. My itentions are what I stated,I want our family to give to the troops. We can forgo Christmas for ourselves( NO SMALL CHILDREN INVOLVED) and I/ we would be happy to do it.So as originaly requested, who are the right(efficient) groups?
Thanks
George