Here's the problem you are not beleivers in Christ as in; you have not made him lord of your life above yourself and your love for the things of the world. The word of God is not a series of commandments but suggestions. You only go to church because it is a family tradition -- you have never had and never will have a life changing event in relation with the Gospel or your Church and that my friend is because your pastor is a hireling he does it for the money -- shock of shocks ministers are the thrid highest paying profession in the nation right after doctors and lawyers he is paid to be comapssionate -- your pastor is a shrink that speaks smooth sounding things to please his congregants.
When if ever has your pastor preached a sermon on hell fire? When has your pastor ever suggested that if you have a love for the world and the things of the world you are an enemy of God? when Had the pastor preached if ever that if one is to believe they have to beleive in Jesus Christ as the only way the only truth and the only life and and aht without him you can not have any life within you? Your religion is not on your sleeve becasue you have none to put there, Your liberal heart is on your sleeve because that is your true religion for out of the heart the mouth speaketh. You can't call up what is not in you. why do you suppose so many of your vacant empty heared religious ilk are willingly converting Islam? I hear christians in europe and the US are converting at the rate of 30,000 a month. They are no more christains than you are.
The word christian actually means something more than a brand name. Its not a sock or shoe taht you can slip on and off when its fashionable the word salvation in the greek is Sozo it heans to save to heal to deliver and this in the gosepls is demonstrated in body sould and spirit -- if Christ has not reached into the uttermost part of your being with this sozo and healed and delviered you body soul and spirit you have never been touched by the Gospel.
God is willing to prove himself alive and demonstrate that the Gospel the one true gospel has remained the same for the last 2000 years. Whoso shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. If you mean it God will come and turn your life inside out, You will have a joy and a peace that you have never had and you will have this bububly feeling within, the very life of God that wants to be expressed and confessed to others.