Of course they would have.
What do they think the military is? A grade school?
Soldiers do what they're told to do, and can only hope that their CO looks out for them. There's no democracy in the military, and these "soldiers", and their wives, should face that fact.
What's not being said is that other soldiers had to do the job their husbands wouldn't do. These other soldier's lives were put in harm's way, but they completed their "suicide" mission without incident.