The lesbian has been with the same guy now going on three years and is talking marriage.
MY squeeze tho can't believe ANY self respecting man would EVER get involved with a sexually screwed up individual like that especially since the "boyfriend in all aspects is sloppy seconds in the "choice" column...LOL!!!
I think men are much more fixed in their sexuality than women. It's much more likely for a woman to be able to try a lesbian experience without really being homosexual. Most heterosexual men couldn't do that in a million years. So it's much more likely for a woman who has decided she is a "lesbian" to be attracted to men at some other point in her life.
She has admitted to me that her ex boyfriend for years told her that she was lucky to have him, because no one else would take her because of her weight. She believed him (she started dating him at 14 years old). We for years tried to get her out of this relationship (we didn't know he was telling her all of this), but because of her age she rebelled against anything her family would tell her. Amazingly although she dated him for 10 years, he was so cold towards her that they never were close physically. She just assumed that the problem was her, and she wouldn't open up to any of us because she was ashamed.
When she finally matured, and broke up with him, this "lady" was there and she convinced my relative that she was gay, and that's why she was never physically involved with her boyfriend. I, as someone who loved her deeply, sat her down one day, and told her that if she really "loved" this woman I would support her because all I wanted was for her to be happy. But if she was still confused, take some time by herself, and find herself. I truly think that she didn't think she could be alone. When she discovered it was ok to be alone, she was able to step back, look at the situation, and ended the relationship. After a while, she met a wonderful man, and she is truly happier than I have ever seen her.