Your family members are not looking for a Messiah? Then they are Jews like Larry King is a Jew. Reformed Jews are like the Unitarians are to Protestants. If there is no Messiah, then what is the point?
I have no idea what they're seeking. All i know is that certainly do not accept Jesus Christ as the Son who's come before.
Exactly true.
Most "Reformed" Jews are culturallly Jewish, not religiously Jewish. Most of them theological atheists.
In my book, only Conservative and Orthodox Jews are really Jewish.