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Ada's Story: Woman Glad She Had Abortion
I'm Not Sorry.net ^ | Unknown | Ada

Posted on 07/31/2004 5:18:29 PM PDT by Keyes2000mt

I put my co-pay and a small donation on my credit card. It's a lot less than I thought I'd have to pay. I'm relieved, since I have student fees and rent coming up. More waiting. I get very hungry. I wish I had eaten breakfast before coming. I look over the pamphlet and discover NuvaRing. It sounds great and so much more convenient than the Pill. My regular doctor had not mentioned it. I had no idea there was something so easy available. I'm excited to get started with that right away.

Three hours after first arriving, it's finally time. I'm led to a bathroom and told to empty my bladder and put a pad in my underwear. I'm then led to another room where I strip from the waist down and lie on a table. I realize that I'm not even nervous. I feel a little awkward lying on a table with no pants, but nothing too bad. The doctor comes in, introduces himself, and shakes my hand. A woman stands next to me and starts some small talk. It gets my mind off what's going on. I barely feel a thing at first. The woman next to me warns I'll soon hear the vaccuum turn on and feel some cramping. It was still a bit surprising to feel cramps so suddenly. It is uncomfortable, but not painful. More small talk. She's a cat person but her apartment won't allow them. I sympathize.

Finally, I hear the machine shut off, and the woman next to me says it is hopefully over. The doctor confirms. All the important parts have been removed. I'm done.

The doctor reminds me of the importance of scheduling a follow-up exam before leaving the room. As soon as I sit up, the cramps get a lot better. I get dressed and go into the recovery room. I'm still hungry, and a little cold, but am feeling pretty good. The cramps aren't that bad, and I'm relieved to have the procedure done.

I tell the woman I have decided on the NuvaRing. We discuss that and go over my aftercare. 7 days of antibiotics. No sex, tampons, or lifting over twenty pounds for two weeks. Nothing I can't handle. I'm reminded once more to make an appointment for a follow-up exam in three to four weeks. I get a small brown bag with papers describing everything I was told about, a bottle of antibiotics, and my first NuvaRing. Another woman checks my blood pressure and temperature again. My blood pressure has come back down.

I'm hungry, and I want a nap, but I'm feeling good about my decision, and relieved that it's over. My roommate takes me for lunch and drops me off at home before heading into work. I'm hardly bleeding at all.

I talk to my mom on the phone a few hours later. I lie and say that nothing's new in my life. I know she wouldn't approve, but I also know she's not ready to be a grandmother yet.

Feb. 7: After a few days of just light spotting, it's starting to feel like a period flow. I haven't used pads in over ten years. It feels strange.

I make the appointment for my follow-up exam. It will be on February 25, exactly three weeks after the procedure. They'll make sure there were no complications, and I'll get the chance to buy more NuvaRings.

Walking home from the store, I hear a baby wailing through an apartment window on my street. I chuckle to myself and think how happy I am that won't be my window later this year.

To simply say "I'm not sorry" or "I don't regret it" is not strong enough. Having an abortion was the best decision I ever made. I'm glad I did it, and I'm 100% confident that I made the right choice for myself, my lover, and our situation. It's not right for everyone, but it was right for me, and I'll do everything in my power to make sure every woman has the opportunity to decide if it is right for her without legislation making that decision for her.

Any pregnancy will change your life, whether you have the baby or not. It should be up to us how we let it change us.

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KEYWORDS: abortion; abortionismean; heartless; jerk; postabortivewomen
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To: DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet

I used to get annoyed but it's so automatic to people I don't bother. Girls do have more to worry about because of simple biology. Personally I question whether a lot men are capable of monogamy LOL


141 posted on 08/01/2004 11:12:36 AM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: cyborg
I don't buy that. They may have a seemingly impenetrable exterior, but they care. Everyone has considered the possibility of a life after this and has wondered whether God exists. We're all children of the first Adam and we all carry an unjustified grudge against our Creator. What you have pointed to in these women as a lack of concern, God calls rebellion in His Word. We are a race of rebels.
142 posted on 08/01/2004 11:12:51 AM PDT by O.C. - Old Cracker (When the cracker gets old, you wind up with Old Cracker. - O.C.)
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To: O.C. - Old Cracker

Well then it's abashed rebellion then because I'm amazed they don't go life thinking whether the bill for their actions will come due.


143 posted on 08/01/2004 11:13:49 AM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: cyborg
I'm not trying to argue with you, but none of us really knows what any other human is working through in their heart. In the times that we find ourselves alone, God is there, working to tear down walls that we've taken our entire life to build. He's the only One who can perform this miracle.

One of my favorite stories from God's Word is of the two criminals who hung on either side of Jesus Christ. Both recognized Jesus as God, but only one dared to surrender to His will. Impending death has a way of bringing reality into razor sharp focus.

And a superscription also was written over him in letters of Greek, and Latin, and Hebrew, THIS IS THE KING OF THE JEWS. And one of the malefactors which were hanged railed on him, saying, If thou be Christ, save thyself and us. But the other answering rebuked him, saying, Dost not thou fear God, seeing thou art in the same condemnation? And we indeed justly; for we receive the due reward of our deeds: but this man hath done nothing amiss. And he said unto Jesus, Lord, remember me when thou comest into thy kingdom. And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, To day shalt thou be with me in paradise.
Luke 23:38-43

144 posted on 08/01/2004 11:30:57 AM PDT by O.C. - Old Cracker (When the cracker gets old, you wind up with Old Cracker. - O.C.)
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To: BenLurkin
It would be monstrous

Yes, these people are monsters. People without souls. Most Democrats and all Liberals are people without souls.

145 posted on 08/01/2004 11:36:03 AM PDT by my_pointy_head_is_sharp
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To: O.C. - Old Cracker

Well...okay but what if a person doesn't even believe in God or if God is irrelevant to them?


146 posted on 08/01/2004 11:37:18 AM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: cyborg

I've known women like that, too. I could never be one of them, but I have definitely known them.


147 posted on 08/01/2004 11:39:09 AM PDT by DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet (NO SIMS CITY ON PUBLIC LAND.)
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To: DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet
I should clarify: It looks like you just don't think people should have sex outside of marriage. I hope you feel as strongly about that for men as you do for women.

"Of course" I do, but I can understand how you might not have seen that.

The person in the article made no mention of the father's existence, and IMHO doesn't even know (or care) who the father is. This is why the focus was on her.

That said, yes, I expect teen boys to restrain themselves. Unfortunately, it's more difficult for them today because they have women like this tramp pursuing them, and they'll often be called gay if they don't give in.

Back in the Dark Ages when I grew up, the "problem" for a guy who wanted "it" was finding a girl who WOULD give in, of which there were relatively few.

148 posted on 08/01/2004 12:15:59 PM PDT by litany_of_lies
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To: DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet; cyborg
Not to bore you with Biblical references, but the Bible refers to such a man as a whoremonger. Such a man is just as guilty of the sin of adultery as the woman he lies with.

Observe the reaction of the Pharisees in the last sentence.

The scribes and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in adultery, and placing her in the midst they said to him, "Teacher, this woman has been caught in the act of adultery. Now in the law Moses commanded us to stone such. What do you say about her?" This they said to test him, that they might have some charge to bring against him. Jesus bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to them, "Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her." And once more he bent down and wrote with his finger on the ground. But when they heard it, they went away, one by one, beginning with the eldest and Jesus was left alone with the woman standing before him.
John 8:3-9

149 posted on 08/01/2004 12:33:36 PM PDT by O.C. - Old Cracker (When the cracker gets old, you wind up with Old Cracker. - O.C.)
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To: O.C. - Old Cracker

You're not boring me with the bible references at all. My concern is dealing with people who think the Bible is irrelevant. How do you deal with such people?


150 posted on 08/01/2004 12:45:34 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: stands2reason

I don't know your current age, but for other medical reasons I also could never have children, very devastating after 3 major surgeries to try to fix and only being 20 years old. I never lost my belief though that God grants your innermost dreams, just as along as you do not lose faith. Now, 2 crazy boys 22 and 16 both adopted as newborns, and out of that 8 months ago the 22 yo just gave me my first grandchild. I love dearly the 2 mothers that gave life to my two sons, and both boys have been told this since they were very small. Adoption is such a wonderful thing for those of us that can't have children.


151 posted on 08/01/2004 1:36:14 PM PDT by DandG13
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To: O.C. - Old Cracker
Not to bore you with Biblical references, but the Bible refers to such a man as a whoremonger. Such a man is just as guilty of the sin of adultery as the woman he lies with.

Biblical references don't bore or bother me. I'm a Christian. I'm just amazed that some people consistently seem to blame women for things it takes two people to do.

152 posted on 08/01/2004 1:57:32 PM PDT by DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet (NO SIMS CITY ON PUBLIC LAND.)
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To: litany_of_lies
Unfortunately, it's more difficult for them today because they have women like this tramp pursuing them, and they'll often be called gay if they don't give in.

Why does it always come back to the woman with you? Why do you seem to reserve the name-calling for women only? Whores, tramps...and the poor, victimized teen-aged boys.

Think about it. Please.

153 posted on 08/01/2004 1:59:35 PM PDT by DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet (NO SIMS CITY ON PUBLIC LAND.)
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To: cyborg
If they dismiss God and His Word as irrelevant, then what do they consider relevant? Themselves? You can tell them that 'Man as the measure of all things' is nothing new. It's what got us in trouble in the Garden and is our curse up to this day.

Nobody was ever argued in to a relationship with Jesus Christ. The most powerful weapon in the arsenal of a true believer in Jesus Christ is prayer. Jesus' example is that the only way to deal with the unbelieving world is through prayer and an attitude of love. Of the two, the second one is by far the most difficult for me.

Ephesians chapter 6 has helped me to see the true believer in Jesus Christ as a warrior. Because that is precisely what the life of a true believer is, a war.

154 posted on 08/01/2004 2:36:11 PM PDT by O.C. - Old Cracker (When the cracker gets old, you wind up with Old Cracker. - O.C.)
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To: SilentServiceCPOWife

I can sense when a woman had an abortion. They are not friends of mine.


155 posted on 08/01/2004 2:48:08 PM PDT by BobS
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To: BobS

How can you sense that?


156 posted on 08/01/2004 2:49:53 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: cyborg

Pheromones. I trained my nose.


157 posted on 08/01/2004 2:51:36 PM PDT by BobS
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To: BobS

I think you are joking.


158 posted on 08/01/2004 2:57:12 PM PDT by cyborg (http://mentalmumblings.blogspot.com/)
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To: DaughterOfAnIwoJimaVet

Because the WOMAN/GIRL is the one discussed in the article.

Zheesh, it's more difficult for boys who want to be good than it used to be. Yes there are boys who act like it's their right to be the sperm depositors of the world, and there's probably more of them than there used to be.

It's also more difficult for girls who want to be good than it used to be because of the above-ID'd boys, many of whom presumably expect the girls to protect themselves without giving it another thought, and expect them to abort their babies if a mistake happens.

K?


159 posted on 08/01/2004 3:56:30 PM PDT by litany_of_lies
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To: Keyes2000mt
People talk about the fact that there was no outrage over Abu Ghraib until people saw pictures. I think if people could see video of life in the womb, of babies smiling, etc., and then saw a film of a partial birth abortion, and then the aftermath the the formerly pregnant woman ensures, we'd have a lot fewer abortions.

Future generations may look back at a time when our nation destroyed over 40 million lives in the womb with the same horror that we view the gladiatorial days of Ancient Rome.
160 posted on 08/01/2004 4:04:40 PM PDT by Uncle Vlad
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