Organized people oppress disorganized people, accurate people oppress people who fail to meet the required standards of accuracy, people who can spell oppress people who cannot spell... finally we have a cause that both the doctors and the trial lawyers can exploit.
I don't know where lack of skills ends and "disability" begins. Different people naturally have different strengths and weaknesses. If you are good in some areas you should capitalize on those things as much as possible while trying to improve areas you are not good at. I do not think it is good if you cannot spell and you distribute a memo saying, "I have a spelling disorder. I require that you accommodate my disorder by re-writing all of my work."
I have a co-worker who has turned down promotions to management because he wants to do highly technical work and not have to deal with a lot of "people problems." There is another person on the fast-track to management because he is both good with technical things and he also likes the social aspect of meeting people, etc. I am happiest when working on something technical, especially solving some complicated problem. I am much happier writing memos than I am having to meet with people
I get annoyed by people I think are too chatty, and the chatty people think I am too abrupt. The truth is they tend to be too chatty and I tend to be too abrupt. They do not have the "Chatty Disorder" and I do not have the "Abrupt Disorder." They could practice being more on-topic and timely and I could practice being more at ease with people. Actually, I have gotten better with conducting meetings and public speaking, but I know I would never do well with customer service or sales. In an area I am weak at, I know that I have to work harder and get beyond my comfort level -- I don't expect the world to accommodate me because I am not the best public speaker in the world. That means I might have to work harder than someone else whenever I have to prepare myself to lead a meeting. That is not unfair -- that is just the way it is. I think laziness is behind some of the problems people have, while I do not deny that some people have legitimate problems.
Nice post. The above is my keeper. I don't trust the Psych orgs (apa, etc.) to draw the lines. Drawing a line between normal and a disability or disorder or disease (in a legal sense) is too powerful to be left to a bunch of liberals - the courts, lawyers, and psychologists/psychiatrists. Unfortunately "invading academia" by liberals has really bad ripple effects.
On a more positive note, in my professional opinion, you are suffering from CDD - Chat Deficit Disorder. You don't like to talk to people as much as, say, a normal person like myself does. Please seek treatment tomorrow at the latest (or preferably this evening). There are new drugs coming online, and many new therapy modalities that can help you work through this. Admitting CDD publicly was a brave first step - congratulations! Soon you will be back as a fully functioning adult, working for the state. Please keep us posted of you progress.