Let's be exact here...once an adolescent male Arab, Pakastani, Palestinian, etc has been through the equivalant of a Madras, we have lost him to any type of reform. He then regards us and anyone else as an enemy worthy of death at his own hand. These are the enemies that I agree need to be dealt with harshly and indiscriminately.
Our only hope is to get to the women and children in these cultures, and the unindoctrinated pro-western adult males, and somehow shield and protect them from their terrorist and terrorist-sympathizing adult males until they can face down these animals themselves.
That is what Bush is trying to accomplish. Whether he and the rest of our Western allies can accomplish this over a generation remains to be seen.
IMHO the only way to do that is to find a way so that the women can convert to Christianity. Being virtual slaves, they're ripe for it, in much the same way women were ripe for it in the early Christian era.