First: Life ain't fair.
Second: I don't consider insiting on contraception for the females to be a punishment.
The gals are more of a liability. THEY get pregnant. The guys don't.
As regards the guys
I'm for that, if we can figure out how to do it TEMPORARILY. It's a lot harder with guys to do it temporarily. ( And it would NOT be a good idea to mess with their hoarmones. They NEED to be agressive)
And I personally want our military men in the gene-pool when the time is approriate.
Censuring will not work.
You can censure all sides as much as you want. But the facts remain that we have a bunch of bored, agressive, attractive young people packed in together tightly.
They are GOING to "tango", as you put it.
If "tangoeing" is against the rules, then both should be sanctioned. If it is not against the rules, then let it be.
What you are proposing is making all the women take a contraceptive drug, whether or not they will have sex. This pre-judging all women that they WILL be pregnant. Yet not a singe one of them will get pregnant without the participation of a man, and yet under your system NONE of the men are pre-judged to be procreators.
Therefore, if procreation is a military offense, you've pre-judged ALL the women to be guilty before the fact and NONE of the men to be guilty before the fact. This flies in the face of our fundemental tennet of "innocent until proven guilty".
Within the idea of a mandatory draft, I have SERIOUS objections to forced drugging of any individual. Hormonal contraception is not healthy nor is it well tolerated by everyone. Others may object for religious reasons. Soon there won't be much difference between our policies and those of China.