You know, _Jim would probably say, "Why the heck did you [meaning me] get involved?" I am sure he doesn't care. But that is my soft soft; I always feel like interceding to make peace (even if I myself leave hurricanes wherever I go!). Instead of restraining myself this time, I jumped in. I probably shouldn't have. I wish I didn't because I know it really is none of my business.
Thank you nully, _Jim and all others for not telling me to butt out.